The Reliability, Ohh Dear, don't ruin it

“A doubtful friend is worse than a certain enemy. Let a man be one thing or the other, and we then know how to meet him.”

― Aesop, Aesop's Fables

Recently, I got a call from one of my friend. He wanted to start some snacks outlet and he wanted me to help him with the setup. Once few years back I called him for the setup of same thing in Bangalore. He was very happy with the idea and was over eager to come and he gave me time window when he could be in Bangalore to help me. I took his words and I started the preparation. When I was almost done with my preparation, I called him and asked what will be best day for his ticket to Bangalore. To my surprise, he said that he can't come. This was it. There was no need for further conversation. I had not intention for persuasion. Persuasion could have bring him in but his refusal was enough for me discard every plan and preparation. And I did so without any second thought.

For him it was just simple NO or refusal but for me it was the question on his reliability. Now he is asking me for the help and I am doubting. My wisdom does not allow me to trust on him. He is my friend I can't say much to him. Whenever he calls me I say that I have the trust issue with him let me think about him and his proposal. He just laughs. I don't expect him to laugh on this rather he should be retrospecting the past.

The Reliability could be seems another word from the dictionary but it carries few unmatched weightage. It affects in every part of the life be it professional, social or personal. When you promise or say something then you got to do, period. Even if you failed to achieve expected result for your promise, it does not matter. Few of the action we do every day without realising like promising of call return after sometimes, giving unrealistic time frame to your manager to make him feel good or just promising something out of euphoria and backing out later etc. These things can be avoided with better selection of words or just making a little more effort to fulfil the promise.

Do less promise with others or create less expectation or say straight no but don't let the question mark arise on your reliability.

The learning...

"Learning is the act of acquiring new, or modifying and reinforcing, existing knowledge, behaviors, skills, values, or preferences and may involve synthesizing different types of information. The ability to learn is possessed by humans, animals, plants and some machines."

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In the age of technologies whatever we learn get obsolete rapidly. Specially in technologies field. It's growing so fast, that it's becoming quite cumbersome to keep up with the update of technologies. But there is some good news, what happens with the technology few things does not change rapidly unlike technologies.

Human behaviours do not change often. It takes decades to shift the behaviour of humans and still few behaviours we carry from our ancestors. Few things we adapt faster like new trend in purchasing and adaptation of new fashions etc but the elements like emotions, body language, religious belief and human interaction take abundant time to change. So, it's worth investing the time to understand and learn these elements. A good salespersons keep these things in his arsenal to grab the best deal. I changed my interview outcome from pass to hire in splits of seconds for few candidates for their behaviours even though they were totally misfit for the position and I got the best performers in the team.

Negotiation, it's very misleading term. Most of the people use it for squeezing the money from the deal but best negotiation outcome must be win win for both parties. It's not zero sum game. Negotiation is all about maximising the values for both parties. When you have to  trade with your opponent in future then it becomes more crucial to get the best deal for the both parties without making other party feel cheated. Would you like to be with the person who have cheated you? So, it's imperative to learn some basics of negotiation. It will help you to maximise the value for your next job switch, your next vehicle purchase and your next real state deal etc.

Law, everything we do is governed by some law. State laws are imposed and encouraged to maintain the discipline in society. But sometime we face the difficulty of not knowing it. It's misused against us by the people who holds the power and authority. So, take some times out from your busy schedule and read them. Few are there which must be used more often but we are not aware of them.

Investing most of us know earning by hard work. But apart from the active income, investing in stock, commodity and real state can be the best source of passive earning and may prove to be the game changers in your life. Take the example of equity. Every company has the story embedded in theirs balance-sheet. Learn to decrypt those stories and then investing in equity is not a risky business.

Learn to Unlearn we give the importance on learning but we forget one most basic thing which we ignore "Unlearning". Unlearning is equally important like learning. If we keep holding us with the the things whatever we learnt earlier, we can't think about new things with different perspective. We can't expect the different result from doing the same thing again and again. So, here it becomes more important we forget the old learning and start afresh.

Good bye 2015 !! Hello 2016...

It's time to spread the layout for the year 2016 and draw a blurry picture how it should go. So, it's time for making some ground rules, todo list, taking new oath and making promises to my selves. By so far 2015, everything seems going right with some glitches and with some inner realisation. I felt I am dragging in career and not living the dream. I was being timid to bet big. I hope this year I will not be repeating the same mistake. Anyway, I am going to write the rules, resolution and promises...

Speak the mind

Most of the time I am hiding to say something, be it with close friend and sometime I was being diplomatic in corporate communication. I don't know what I wanted to save or achieve. So, I realise things must be stated directly in plain grammar and simple words instead of masking the intention behind the heavy sentences.

Take Risks

Now, I realise that I should have taken the leap in many opportunities, I let many opportunities slip away in lack of data. All the datas are never available anytime neither it will be. So, to fill the gap let the intuition guide the decision and action. It's one sacred force which guides you correctly and it must be heard closely when the decision is going to change your life. The Intuition seems a bridge between the universe and oneself. Now, I realise that when the intuition was guiding me to take different paths, make big investment, start new business or chose my better half and I took the decisions favouring the available data instead of listening my inner voice.

So in terse word let the intuition guide my action and let the grit follow the intuition. 

So take risk, live the life without repents. If things have to go wrong it will go wrong no matter how much I control. So taken actions are better than repent. Is not it?

Invest in character and knowledge 

Some one said that investing in yourself is one of the best investment. Nobody is going to tax on your knowledge and the character you build will last forever. Money can go away, the job can be snatched anytime and physical beauty can disappear in many ways. It's the character and knowledge will appreciate with the time whereas the physical thing will depreciate. So, my character and personality should not be crippled what I wear or how I look.

So, read a lot of things and nourish the mind and soul.

Move to leadership position

The time has come to do the things differently. It's the time to compile the energy and resources and come with the force. Improve communication skills and let the people know that I am the Elephant in the room who was asleep and now it's waking up and who can't be ignored.  It's showtime be the one hell of example.


Be Open, Be Social and Expand the reach

I was very reluctant to be open to the world. Be it going to parties, be it going on blind date or be it even going on date with the people I knew. My worlds were confined with selected no. of peoples, I was happy with that. Now I realise that if you give the people more importance or contact them more frequent, they dubbed you useless and you take the suffer. My Bad, I am being negative here, but it's fucking true and it can't be ignored.

Any way, I don't think I am  going to change in this case. So, I am going to stick with my people only. Only the privileged one will get the entry in my world. Still I am not going to be open, I am not to be social and obviously reach will be expanded but not the sake of some personal things. It's will be pure business.

Yeah sometime suffering is the worth for the peoples, I have much regards. How should I tell I love you a lot? I am not going to let any body infiltrate my world easily.

Participate in social cause

The good intention towards humanity and nature are the rent we pay to live on this earth and its resources. So, it's also my responsibility make the surrounding better. Reduce my footprint on the earth. Be responsible for the using its resources and keep the surrounding clean and help the needy peoples. Visit NGOs and be the part of the group who work for the societies.  Donate at-least 5% of my earning towards the social cause.

Be Stubborn and Be Eccentric

I used to have few traits which always kept me in the game, even when the circumstances were not in favour, be it facing the brutal illness and facing the unemployments for few months and not getting help from my own family. I was so stubborn not to give up. I dreamt of achieving the thing that seemed impossible once. Yes, I was eccentric to believe that I can do it.

With the time I realise that I am not that much stubborn and eccentric to dream big. So, these traits again need to come in my personality. It's time to dream bigger and if I am not stubborn and eccentric, then surely I will not be able to do it.


Work Hard, Play Harder and Raise the Bar

Sometime I feel sluggish towards the work and it gets delayed. I keep postponing the thing out of born laziness. Sometime I delay the work because I have the routine for the day. Now, I realise that routine can be compromised but the works can't be. Let's work hard until the work is complete or body gives up, if the vein in eyes gets burst, let it be, if there is dizziness while work, let it be but the target should not be breached. Period.

Whenever get the time, party harder, let's not put any number on anything while partying. I work hard and deserve the treat. Let every party be memorable.


Let's make the stories worth to be told...

Happy New Year...!!